The Book of Forgiving: The Fourfold Path for Healing Ourselves and Our World
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The Book of Forgiving: The Fourfold Path for Healing Ourselves and Our World

Archbishop Desmond Tutu, Nobel Peace Prize winner, Chair of The Elders, and Chair of South Africa’s Truth and Reconciliation Commission, along with his daughter, the Reverend Mpho Tutu, offer a manual on the art of forgiveness—helping us to realize that we are all capable of healing and transformation.

Tutu's role as the Chair of the Truth and Reconciliation Commission taught him much about forgiveness. If you asked anyone what they thought was going to happen to South Africa after apartheid, almost universally it was predicted that the country would be devastated by a comprehensive bloodbath. Yet, instead of revenge and retribution, this new nation chose to tread the difficult path of confession, forgiveness, and reconciliation.

Each of us has a deep need to forgive and to be forgiven. After much reflection on the process of forgiveness, Tutu has seen that there are four important steps to healing: Admitting the wrong and acknowledging the harm; Telling one's story and witnessing the anguish; Asking for forgiveness and granting forgiveness; and renewing or releasing the relationship. Forgiveness is hard work. Sometimes it even feels like an impossible task. But it is only through walking this fourfold path that Tutu says we can free ourselves of the endless and unyielding cycle of pain and retribution. The Book of Forgiving is both a touchstone and a tool, offering Tutu's wise advice and showing the way to experience forgiveness. Ultimately, forgiving is the only means we have to heal ourselves and our aching world.

Title:The Book of Forgiving: The Fourfold Path for Healing Ourselves and Our World
ISBN:0062203568
Format Type:Hardcover
Number of Pages:230 pages

    The Book of Forgiving: The Fourfold Path for Healing Ourselves and Our World Reviews

  • Janet
    Mar 20, 2014

    When I first started reading this I confess it was a hard read. So much pain at levels I have never experienced. It made me feel small and fragile to even think of whining about my own troubles when t...

  • Geoff Livingston
    Aug 31, 2016

    A truly restorative book filled with fantastic spiritual exercises and examples. This is not an entertaining read, it is work. Not the prose, but the subject matter. Yet, if you read it through you ca...

  • Catie
    Jan 02, 2016

    Important read. I started this book in the aftermath of the Paris terrorist attacks. I seek a world of forgiveness and peace. I believe no one is beyond the reach of forgiveness."Forgiveness is nothin...

  • Christie
    Feb 24, 2016

    The best book on forgiveness that I have ever read. It took me four months to read it. It is one you have to digest slowly and purposefully. <3 I love that I started it in the fall when everything was...

  • Laura Thompson
    Aug 22, 2016

    Truly beautiful book. The instruction for forgiveness is really illustrated well with fabulously shared stories. ...

  • Kathryn
    Jun 28, 2014

    I must express my gratitude to Desmond Tutu and Mpho Tutu for writing this book. It has opened my eyes, my heart, my mind to truly understanding forgiveness. It has inspired me to embrace this work an...

  • Megan Clarke
    Aug 30, 2014

    Until I read this book, the idea of forgiveness was rather vague and obscure--something that as a Christian I knew I was "supposed" to do, but I really had no idea how to go about it. How did I know i...

  • Molly
    Jul 26, 2016

    I recommend this as a must-read book for every adult especially those struggling to forgive either oneself or another human being. The authors, Nobel Laureate, Desmond Tutu and his daughter, Mpho Tutu...

  • Hillary
    Sep 25, 2014

    This is a beautifully written and powerful map to forgiveness and the power of forgiveness in each of our lives and to all of us as an interconnected people. Not only are there narratives, some of whi...

  • Fred Kohn
    Sep 17, 2015

    If you are worried that this book will be overly religious because it is written by a bishop, don't. It contains very practical advice regardless of your religion or lack thereof. I found many of the ...